TRUSTING INNER WISDOM
By Annetta “Nettie” Morse

 

           The word trust means having confidence, faith, being able to believe in the honesty, integrity, reliability of another person or situation. Trusting another person or set of circumstances depends on the experience you have had in past interactions with family, friends, co-workers, people, places and situations. Trust is something learned. When judgments are made quickly, mixing inner feelings with past experiences, it confuses the meaning of what is true. How can you be sure what the truth is? People who tell little white lies usually do so because they don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, or sometimes they are so frank it is hurtful, even though the words are prefaced with, “You know it is only my opinion” or my favorite, “I’m telling you for your own good.” Sometimes the whole truth is not told because of not wanting to deal with the repercussion it will cause. For example, when a woman asks, “Do you think I look fat in this dress,” a wise person develops tact in answering that question. Every effort put into learning to phrase negative responses with truth and diplomacy is an art form that everyone needs to learn.

How is that learned?  One way is by listening to others who can finesse any difficult question. The best teacher is sticking your foot in your mouth more than once and learning lessons from it. Men seem to be better with truthful answers with each other than with the female species because women have a lower threshold for accepting negative comments. If you are offended, the best course of action is to talk directly to the person who made the comment, rather than talking to everyone else, because that person is the only one who can do anything about fixing it.

How can you always be truthful and positive in the same breath?  If you grew up in an environment where being truthful was always top priority, you had a built in role model.  You had a great foundation for being self-confident and trusting.  It was vital to building self-confidence if you were lucky enough to have grown up in an atmosphere of love and respect in spite of occurring differences; an atmosphere where time was taken to demonstrate more love, honor, acceptance and devotion than criticism.

How much time is needed to be deliberate about shaping a safe space to be honest with loved ones? Today time seems to be limited and people have become multitasked and are more deliberate about getting tasks done, putting off taking time to create intimate, honest, trustworthy, loving moments with the people they love and have promised to be with forever. Learn to take time with the special people in your life. Choose words that are kind. Building trust in what is being said means not using negative, hurtful comments but rather, ones of endearment. Can it be done all of the time? Who really knows unless it is a goal that is set and believed can be accomplished. A goal set not just with intimate loved ones, but also with co-workers, friends, family members, neighbors, and acquaintances. Always begin with speaking kind words in self talk.

Know who you are and what you are about in this life time. Confidence in what you have chosen as your ultimate life purpose has to come from desire and strived for every moment you live. At first it seems impossible, but like anything else, practice makes perfect. For example, if you wanted to play the piano, it requires more than just wanting. Start with finding a teacher who understands your nature, ability and desires. (Hopefully you live with people that are not critical while you are learning.) Five hours of practice for every one hour of lessons is a must. You have to decide how good you want to be or decide you just want to be good enough for the fun of it only. Be devoted to the learning until your goal is achieved. Desire begins with wanting it, asking for it, believing it can be achieved, and allowing the law of attraction to draw it to you.

          How do you know you are in alignment with that which you have wanted and asked for? Learn to trust your feelings. Know you are in alignment when you feel good about what you are doing and who you are. Sometimes you have to tweak the situation just a bit to feel good but the effort is the benefit attached to practice until it becomes perfect (“IT” meaning every desire you have). Not everyone is meant to be a concert pianist, but some are given the opportunity to become the very best at what they are doing. One who has achieved excellence deserves getting their name on the marquee of life. Trust your desires, work toward accomplishing the tasks that bring you joy, and let your every word express that with honesty. Be patient with yourself while learning and follow your intuitive guidance, learning with every experience that you are creating a life worthy to be called a wise one.

          When you can honestly and tactfully answer the question, “Do I look too fat in this dress?”  you’ll have an inner wisdom you can trust.

 

 Annetta “Nettie” Morse; writer, philosopher, entrepreneur and Tarot Coach can be reached by calling 740-687-5824.